There’s currently a post doing the rounds on social media that took me right back to this photo that I took of my wife, Nicola, and son, Seb, on our family holiday earlier in the summer. The post, from a lady called Kaylin, goes as follows:
“Dear men…. take the photo… It doesn’t matter what she looks like, or if she tells you no, take the photo. You may not think about it often, or at all honestly. But how many photos does she capture of you, of your family and of your life you’ve built. But when she is gone, those photos won’t show your children the woman who was behind the camera.
Take the photo. Messy hair, no make up or a dirty old t-shirt won’t matter to your children when she is gone someday. What will matter is that you loved what you saw enough to take a photo, to document it, to preserve that moment in time of the woman you love. No woman wants to look back at a lifetime of selfies. Do what she does for you every day, and snap a few moments in time.
Be proud. Take photos of her. Before kids and after.
Just take the photo….” -Kaylin
As I said this took me back to this particular photo of my wife and son. It was only taken on my iPhone and it must have been one of hundreds (of course) that I took whilst we were enjoying the delights of Disneyland Paris back in early July. And yet it’s probably, no definitely, my favourite. Why? Well it’s quite simply because they have this most wonderful relationship, even though Seb is now 13. Quite often when I get back from a wedding or family shoot I’ll find them having a little cuddle on the sofa whilst watching the TV or playing games and laughing whilst baking in the kitchen. It really is quite beautiful to witness. So I wanted to capture this moment – I didn’t care what with, just as long as I did. Borrowed from Kaylin’s words I wanted to ‘document it, to preserve that moment in time of the woman & son I love’.
So that was it, captured. Job done? Absolutely not!! Of course Kaylin is absolutely right – ‘Just take the photo’. But that’s only the start of it. Don’t overlook what else she said – ‘to preserve that moment in time…’ Yes, preserving it is absolutely key. A moment in time isn’t preserved just by sitting on your phone or memory card. Go ahead and get it off the phone, back it up and PRINT it out. For me that’s the only way to preserve it and save it from the mercy of fallible and obsolescence prone digital media.
And just in case you’re wondering – yes I did get this image off my phone and is now preserved in print in the form of a photobook that I created for Seb’s birthday.
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